Our Friendships in Life

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friends for life

When you’re little, your parents are your world and they are the ones that choose the people that surround you. As you grow, it starts to be your own choice as to who you let into your life and who becomes important. Your friends gradually start becoming a bigger priority.

As you get older and your friendships take on a larger role in your life, you’re convinced that your best friends will remain your best friends forever. You depend on them to get you through the oh-so-dramatic happenings in your teenage years when your parents don’t understand you. You spend all of your waking hours together. Sometimes your best friend remains your best friend, but things can change as well. Continue reading “Our Friendships in Life”

Tranquility

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Wishing You A Tranquil Day Today!

tranquility

The noun tranquility means “a state of peace and quiet,” like the tranquility you feel at the shore of a quiet lake or inside a beautiful cathedral.

Tranquility can also describe a person’s disposition. How do you reach tranquility? Make peace with yourself, your life, and the people who drive you crazy. Tranquility can also come from spending time alone, like reading in front of the fireplace on a snowy afternoon. Meditation and yoga can help bring tranquility, by clearing your mind of constant worries.

n        an untroubled state that is free from disturbances

Synonyms:
quiet, tranquillity
Type of:
order

established customary state (especially of society)

n      a state of peace and quiet

Synonyms:
quietness, quietude, tranquillity
Types:
ataraxis, heartsease, peace, peace of mind, peacefulness, repose, serenity

the absence of mental stress or anxiety
easiness, relaxation

a feeling of refreshing tranquility and an absence of tension or worry
dreaminess, languor

a relaxed comfortable feeling
Type of:
calmness

a feeling of calm; an absence of agitation or excitement

n      a disposition free from stress or emotion

Synonyms:
placidity, quiet, repose, serenity, tranquillity
Types:
ataraxia

peace of mind
Type of:
calm, calmness, composure, equanimity

steadiness of mind under stress

I’m Lying Every Day

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lying

Because I have a chronic illness, I’m forced to lie every single day.  When you see people at work or at the grocery store or when you see a neighbor out front, our standard greeting nowadays is usually some form of “how are you?”.  It’s at this point that I’m forced to lie, for everybody’s benefit.  For the person asking, they certainly don’t want to hear how I’m actually doing.  How am I supposed to convey the enormity of how this illness affects me every single day of my life?  How could I explain the very real impact of how I feel physically, mentally, and emotionally?  How should I explain my life to them when, nice as they are to ask, they really don’t care at all; they simply asked me to be nice, as a social greeting.  For my own benefit, I’d like to continue to see that person and say “Hi, how are you” and make small talk after today, so I will continue to lie and say “Fine, how are you?”.  How many of us do this every day without really asking how the person is? Continue reading “I’m Lying Every Day”

What IS Comfort Food, Anyway?

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comfort food

Who doesn’t love comfort food?  Comfort food is simply the food (or foods) that make you feel better when you think about them; it comforts you.  They are particularly handy to make when you’re stressed, sad, or anxious because it makes you feel better.  If you’re happy, they make you even happier!  It makes me nostalgic.

I said something about comfort food one day when my kids were younger and they didn’t believe there was such a thing.  They insisted that I made it up.  I had to prove that the phrase “comfort food” was a real thing and that other people knew about it too.  They’re convinced that we make things up to tell them; I’m not sure why.  It’s something to do with me telling them about the eyes in the back of my head when they were little. Continue reading “What IS Comfort Food, Anyway?”

I’m a Fixer; What Are You?

You know how, in a group of people, each person takes kind of an unofficial role?  Some of us are planners, some of us are followers, some of us are easy-going and some not so much.  Some in our group work really hard and struggle to get ahead and others seem to carry a horseshoe in their pocket.  It takes all kinds of people to make up our world and each one serves their purpose.  Well, I’m a fixer.  I have a compulsion to have to fix everything.  I know that idea is outdated.  All the FB posts, pins, and articles that I read nowadays say things like “sometimes you just need someone to listen” or “sometimes you just want somebody to say it’s ok”. Well, that’s not me.

I try, really hard, to just listen and to not offer input or advice unless I’m asked.  I fully realize that not everybody wants my opinion or wants me to try to fix something, but I can’t help it!  It appears that my brain believes that my life goal is to fix everything for everybody!  I do my best work when I have a mission, a goal, a cause to fight for.  It can be a huge, important one or something inconsequential and meaningless.  The point is that if I see something that, in my opinion, can or should be different, it energizes me.  It gives me something to focus on and something that makes me feel like I make a difference. Continue reading “I’m a Fixer; What Are You?”