Those Two Little Words

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apology

The power contained in the two little words “I’m Sorry” is enormous!  It can heal years-old hurt, renew friendships, and restore relationships.  It can change people’s lives by allowing them to start forgiving and to get past the hurt and it makes you feel better as well.  Why, if it’s so valuable to say them, are these two little words so difficult for us to say?

Pride for one thing.  None of us likes to admit that we did or said anything wrong–ever.  Our first inclination, then, is to deny, deny, deny.  Some initial responses when you’ve done something that you regret can include:

  • That’s not what I meant
  • You misunderstood
  • That never happened
  • (S)he is lying
  • That’s not really what I said
  • It came out wrong
  • You don’t understand

Why do we feel the need to explain how what we did or said makes us innocent, even when we’re not?  There is not one single person on this earth that is perfect; NOT ONE.  Why do we try so hard to prove that we are?  What do we have to gain?  Time?  Almost all the time, things come out anyway and you end up addressing it, so why prolong it?  The longer you wait, the worse it gets.  It eats at the person that did something and it eats away at the person that was wronged.  You both know something was said or done even if you’re not quite sure of the details or disagree about the circumstances.  Sometimes neither person knows how to fix it.  Is it because of embarrassment?  Probably, but that stays with you, too, until it’s resolved.  Sometimes it gets to be so big that you lose the relationship rather than admit you were wrong.  Is it worth it?  Good relationships are a blessing and not replaceable. Continue reading “Those Two Little Words”

National Suicide Prevention Week

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This year, this week…you can make a difference.  The issue of suicide is always a bit scary, both because we’re afraid it will happen to someone we love and because we are, for the most part, not very knowledgeable about the subject until it affects us.  I have a few people in my life that have been directly impacted by this issue and my heart still breaks for the pain that they experience.  While I learned a bit about it, enough to have an intelligent conversation, I was still unaware of the actual statistics on this issue or the information that is available to help us all become more aware.  This week is National Suicide Prevention Week and, according to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, suicide is the 10th leading cause of death in the U.S.  In addition to that, for every suicide that is carried out, there are about 25 more attempts.  Life is hard for all of us and, for some, it’s harder.  We’ve made some strides in making this topic more mainstream, but we still have work to do.  Depression, mental illness, and suicide are not taboo topics; they are a necessary conversation.  This is no different than us researching cancer or heart attacks.  We all know the warning signs of those and take action to prevent or heal ourselves and those close to us.  We should be doing the same work on the topics of mental illness and/or suicide. Continue reading “National Suicide Prevention Week”

Selena Gomez is Not Alone in Fighting Lupus!

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caring

In the news today it was announced that Selena Gomez is taking some time off to care for herself in dealing with the effects of lupus.  Good for her!  She is not alone in fighting this disease and is, in fact, one of a growing number of us affected by an autoimmune disorder.  Yes, I said “us” as I am counted in that number and can speak to the fight that she is going through.  I am happy that she is speaking out and doing what she needs to do for herself.  We all need to do that, although it’s not easy and it’s not always even possible.

Facts & Figures:  Autoimmune diseases are one of the fastest growing categories of disease.  To put this in perspective and recognize the widespread impact it has, cancer affects up to 9 million people and heart disease up to 22 million.  According to estimates (below), 50 million people may be affected by an autoimmune disease.  Despite the vast number of people affected, funding for research into this area of health is woefully inadequate, as are treatment options.  It is estimated, and expected then, that direct healthcare costs are double those of cancer.  Continue reading “Selena Gomez is Not Alone in Fighting Lupus!”

Health Habits and Hindsight

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As a person with some health issues, I would really like to share some insights into the value of taking care of yourself.  Believe me, I completely understand that daily life and obligations can so easily take over our time and energy that it’s easy to put our health (both physical and emotional) on the back burner.  Take it from someone who has learned the hard way, it’s the one thing that you cannot undo.

When I was younger, I could do anything at all!  I was invincible.  I was married, had a job, had kids, had a 2nd job, took care of the house, kids’ school and sport activities, all the things that we do and take for granted.  What was the one thing that I neglected to do?  Yep, take care of myself in the process.  When I was younger, not as much emphasis was placed on physical activity or good-for-you foods, and we certainly didn’t make time for mental health (yoga, meditation, stress relief).

Just keeping up with our obligations and a few of the things that we really want to fit into our schedules can take up all 24 hours of our day, but I want to impress on you the importance of taking care of yourself in the process.  Continue reading “Health Habits and Hindsight”

To Sleep or Not to Sleep?

I don’t know about you, but I have trouble sleeping (to put it mildly).  From the many stories about sleeping that are in pretty much every magazine I pick up, I’m not the only one.  It appears to be a significant problem for a lot of us.

I know that there are lots of reasons to account for it, but to me, it doesn’t matter what the reason is.  The fact that I’m still awake in the middle of the night is a problem.  I don’t know about you, but once I wake up, even just a little bit, it’s really hard to go back to sleep.  My mind starts working, I have all these brilliant ideas that I wish I had during the day, and I think about all the things I wish I had done or said differently.  So what do you do when the clock reads 1:36, 2:40, or 3:15 and you just want to sleep?

Well, I read a lot about sleep hygiene.  That always sounds funny to me; like you’re supposed to brush your teeth while you sleep.  They are actually ideas that you are supposed to incorporate to induce good quality sleep. Continue reading “To Sleep or Not to Sleep?”