Feel-Good Moment!

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I’m sure that a lot of you have seen the video of the young man saving a bunny rabbit from the wildfires that are raging in California. When I first saw this video on ABC via Twitter, I was so overwhelmed by different emotions, I needed to react to it.

In the craziness of our everyday lives on top of the politics, hatred, and negativity that we’re living with daily, this was so inspiring to me! It’s so easy to get caught up in the things that we’re dealing with, the things that are problems in our lives, that we sometimes overlook the good that we encounter or we just pass it up on our way to get things done.

The video of this young man risking his life to save a rabbit from the raging fires really hit me. It signifies all that is good in our world. Watching him, I could just feel the emotions he seemed to be experiencing.

I watched this a few times in a row because I just FELT the good in it! I really needed that. Sometimes we get to a place where we really need something good to see, to happen, to make us realize that we really are okay.

Judging by the reactions to this tweet, I’m definitely not the only one to have been affected by this. Let me know how you felt after watching it!

Please check out the video here: Fire Video

Here’s my Twitter response:

Damn… and just like that my faith in humanity is restored. We’re definitely broken right now but THIS? This means we’re going to be okay. Thanks, young man, for being a good person. Our world needs a lot more people like you. I’m sure his mother is none too happy with him tho

and link if you’d like to follow: Tweet

would love to hear about any experiences that you’ve had that have inspired you! I think we could all use a little positive in our life right now. Share your story!

This Long Week

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So this is how I feel this week.

Thanksgiving’s over and it was great! This week we have to get back to normal and take care of our stuff that we ignored last week AND it’s a full one. Seems like this week is a month long, doesn’t it?

This is also the week before I bring out the Christmas spirit and start going crazy! So I clean the house, put some things away, get my stuff ready and in place…and wait for the weekend!

Hope your week is going by faster!

 

 

 

 

In Honor of Veteran’s Day

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My heartfelt gratitude to those of you that are currently serving or have served our country. I can’t begin to imagine the sacrifices you’ve made on behalf of our country. What I do know is that I appreciate each and every one of you and offer you my thanks.

As a mother, I can’t imagine the worry and the sorrow that you must go through when one of your children is away and in danger. To you and all of our veterans’ families, I want to say thank you as well. I know it’s not easy and I applaud your strength and support while your children are serving our country.

God Bless our veterans and keep them safe.

 

 

It’s Time!

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Once again, it’s time to change our clock.

Tonight, or technically tomorrow at 2:00 a.m., we need to change our clocks back by one hour, thereby ending Daylight Saving Time. For those of us in the United States, this means everybody except Hawaii and Arizona. Confusing? Yep, and so is the rest of the story.

Did you know that this tradition actually started way back with Benjamin Franklin in order to conserve energy? Apparently he was way ahead of his time in his thinking that the extra hour of daylight would require less energy on lighting. It wasn’t until a century later, however, that Daylight Saving Time actually went into effect in 1916 when Germany established it as a way to conserve fuel during WWI. Europe followed shortly thereafter and the United States jumped on in 1918. It’s actually a myth that it was initiated to help farmers out by having more daylight hours.

There’s actually quite a bit more history behind the story of how this came to be and how it’s still managed. I found a really interesting article that describes how it was started, ended, and started again. Then it created a lot of chaos by leaving the decision up to the individual states and towns to manage. Nowadays, less than 40% of countries around the world observe Daylight Saving Time.  If you have a few minutes, it’s a fun read.

Daylight Saving Time 2017: A Guide to the When, Why, What and How

There are some fun facts here, as well, like how it affects us, our health, and our pets. I think most of us agree that we can definitely feel the impact twice a year when this rolls around. So tomorrow morning, you can enjoy that extra hour of sleep, but be warned: your pet might not get the memo and expect to get up and eat at the same time as usual.

 

Can’t “Just” Do It All Anymore?

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At some point in our life, we have to stop assuming that we can “just” do whatever we want. Sometimes we can’t “just” run to the store or “just” pick up the house. Sometimes it’s a bigger deal to get it done. Sometimes we expect this change to happen and sometimes it takes us completely by surprise. No matter how it happens, it’s an adjustment that we are forced to make whether we like it or not. It’s just the reality of it.

I think, for most of our life, we go along doing what we want to do or what we have to do without thinking too much about it. We go to school, we go to work, we go to the store, and we go out with friends. All of these things are done without too much thought. We’re in the habit of doing things we have to do, like cleaning the house or going to the grocery store. Most of the time, we just think of these things as necessary and get irritated if we don’t have the time or don’t really feel like doing it. If we get invited to a party or want to go to an event, we decide if we want to go or not.

At some point, however, some of these choices are either taken away from us completely or the choices become much more difficult to make. Sometimes it happens when we least expect it, like when it is due to an accident or an injury. This requires an abrupt change in lifestyle and a complete adjustment to how we have to manage our life versus how life used to be. Sometimes it’s a gradual process, for instance as we age. We know we’re just not quite as capable as we used to be or not quite as quick as we used to be but we learn to adjust to things over time and it’s accepted as a normal process. Sometimes, as with chronic illness, these choices are taken away from us and we can’t really explain it very well.

In all of these instances, life changes and we must learn to adjust to our new reality. Nobody wants to be in this position and nobody has asked for this. Sometimes we can blame our new reality on something specific like an accident or debilitating illness and we have something to be angry at. We have a name that we can blame, something that people understand and that can be easily explained. The other times, the times when there is no good reason for our declining functionality, results in a frustration that is not easily dealt with. That doesn’t help us and it’s just another adjustment that we have to make.

I can speak from a perspective of both aging and having a chronic illness. I can say that I am super frustrated daily. My life has changed in many ways over the past years and I’m not real happy about it. I will adapt, but not easily. Who wants to change their life in a negative way? I certainly didn’t want to give up working when I was finally at a place (and salary) in my career that I wanted to be and had worked toward my whole life. I’m not happy to be in an uphill financial battle with the government (which is woefully inadequate btw). I’m not happy to have to worry, every single day, about what I can and cannot do. Most of all, I’m not happy that these choices were not my doing and not mine to make; the choice was taken from me. We don’t like having choices taken away from us.

From what I have learned, it appears that people with chronic illness tend to be more of a Type A personality, which I definitely am. I’m also stubborn. It makes it much harder for me to admit that I don’t have control over many things in my life anymore and that I’m not able to always just do what I want to do. Dealing with our lack of control is as much of an issue as any other disability, loss of function, or impairment. As I’m aging, I’m also finding that I can’t do things the same way that I used to do them, which I continue to be surprised about…each and every time. You’d think I’d learn after awhile. I can’t multi-task quite nearly as well and things take longer than they used to, so I don’t get as much done. I still have pretty high expectations of myself so I find that I’m constantly being disappointed. One would think that, at some point, I would realize that this is now my “new” life, relax, and learn to adapt. It’s not always that easy.

Many of us, for various reasons, have to live with the reality that there is no such thing as “just” getting something done anymore. Every day when we get up, we make a choice of what we can do. Sometimes that choice needs to be adjusted as the day goes on. When I make a decision to go grocery shopping, it’s not “just” going shopping; it’s making sure I’m up for the walking, lifting, and driving and have nothing else that has to get done.  If I make a commitment to do something, I need to plan ahead and do the best that I can do to feel well enough and hope it stays that way. There are so many factors that play into how we live our lives that I couldn’t possibly list all the possible considerations. It’s discouraging enough to have to make concessions, so please be understanding if someone has difficulty or needs to change plans.

We all have varying circumstances; sometimes these changes are temporary and sometimes they are permanent. Either way, we all have our own set of limitations and do the best that we can to live within them. Adjusting to these changes isn’t easy and we need to understand how this affects people. I know it’s easy to be impatient when people are moving slowly in the grocery store or filling out forms, but it’s important to remember that they’re not doing these things to ruin your day. They’re doing the best that they can. I like to think that we are here to help each other out when we need it, but certainly the very least that we can do is not make their situation worse through our impatience or misunderstanding. For those of you that are struggling daily, take care of yourself in the best way that you can. The rest of us will be just fine. All of us are going to be older one day or have issues that make things a bit harder. Hopefully the people around us will be understanding and supportive of us when we need it as well.

It’s Sunday – Do THIS Today!

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We can look at Sunday two different ways. It’s either the end of the weekend and you’re already planning your upcoming week or you’re still enjoying your weekend and haven’t yet thought about the week ahead. Either way, think about doing THIS sometime today.

Real quick, think about something that makes you happy. Don’t think about whether or not you can do it; don’t think about the logistics of it. Just real quick…what makes you happy?

What are the first few things that you thought of?

Pick one of these and, sometime in the upcoming week, do something to support whatever it is. It can be as small as talking to a friend or as big as taking a vacation. It can be whatever makes you happy. Many times, it’s the act of just doing anything at all that makes us happy.  It’s the feeling we get when we’re planning a vacation; just the process is exciting.

If it’s a smaller, easier goal like meeting up with a friend, going for a walk, or reading that book you’ve wanted to get to, that’s great. It’s still important to take it seriously and make sure you get it done! Many times, we just assume that it will get done during the week so we don’t make a plan for it and we don’t make it a priority. I don’t know about you, but I always have things like this that just don’t get done and it rolls over from week to week on my list of “wanna’ do”.

Sometimes we’re not able to achieve our big goals, but we can do something similar to it, something that makes us happy. For instance, if your dream was to take an exotic vacation and you’re not able to do that because of time or money, can you think of something similar that would make you happy THIS week? Maybe read a book about your desired location, listen to some music that is central to your theme, or visit a local park and just enjoy the nature that’s available to you. Maybe you can put together a plan to reach your ultimate goal. The point is that you’re always able to accomplish something that is relative to your happiness. It doesn’t matter if it’s big or small; the point is that you’re doing something.

Life is too short to just get through it taking care of what you have to do. It should also be about what you want to do. What are some things you can do? If you enjoy nature, take a walk, go to a park, or take some pictures. If you enjoy cooking or baking, try out a new restaurant or make that recipe you’ve been wanting to try. If you enjoy exercise or fitness, make it a point to schedule a workout or yoga session, meditate, or do something similar that you enjoy. We have a tendency to put these things off, just assume they’ll get done, or think we just don’t have the time. Make the time, make an appointment with yourself. Pick a day and time between right now and next Sunday night. Write it down, put it in your phone, do whatever you need to do to make sure it happens. Make this time count. Your happiness is as important to your well-being as your to-do list is. Treat it like it’s important and schedule it in.

Make the time, make a plan, and be happy!