As a Grandparent, You Should Know…

So now that I’ve been a grandparent for a little while, there are a few things that I’ve learned and a lot more things that I need to learn.

First of all, I still think the most important thing that I can do as a grandparent is to just BE THERE.  I want my kids, when they are parents, to know that I’m always going to be here to support them, in whatever capacity they need.  I will babysit, I will provide words of advice (when asked for it and once in a while when I’m not asked), and I will provide a sympathetic ear.  However, I will also develop my own relationship with my grandbaby outside of that he has with his parents, family, friends, etc.

As a baby, there’s not too much that you can do other than hold and cuddle him, make sure that he’s safe, and love him.  I figured that’s easy enough; I can do that.  As the days (and nights) have gone by, I have been forced to realize just how much older I am than I was since I last had a baby.  Things have changed and there are things that I need to brush up on.  I mean, I knew things would be different, of course, but didn’t realize quite how much things have changed.  I asked about the big things, but figured I could certainly get by without too much new information.  I actually found myself being as nervous watching my grandson initially as I was as a mother and wished I had brushed up a little earlier just to be more comfortable.

On the issue of safety we, as grandparents, need to know how many things have changed, some significantly, since we were parents ourselves.  It’s up to us to make sure that we are aware of all the current safety standards and recommendations when it comes to our grandchildren.  That means that I have to read, take a class, and/or ask questions to ensure my grandson’s safety.  Do we know the right way to perform CPR now?  Do we know the correct practice of feeding/sleeping nowadays?  It’s up to us to make sure we do.  Of course the parents, themselves, should provide us with the information that is critical, but they also assume we know this stuff and I’m sure they don’t always feel comfortable telling us what to do.  The point is that it’s our own responsibility to make sure we’re keeping our grandchildren safe.  I bought a book on children’s development and look forward monthly to the growth that I can expect to see as well as issues that may come up.  I recently came across a website devoted to children’s issues hosted by the American Academy of Pediatrics (www.healthychildren.org) and am using this as a resource as well.  Not only is there a lot of information presented on children’s growth, safety, and family issues, but it also includes helpful apps, newsletters, symptom checker, and e-magazines.  You can check on your grandchild’s growth or address any concerns that you may have from newborn all the way through to them becoming a young adult.  I’m looking forward to using this resource and others to stay up-to-date on what to expect and to get news on anything that changes.

The being there and loving part of having a grandchild is the easiest part of all!  The best thing in the world is when my grandson’s face lights up when he sees me!  My heart just melts and everything else in the world just fades away.  When I sing to him and he stares into my eyes with a look of wonder on his face, all the worries in the world couldn’t pull my attention away.  I like to feel like we already have our very own special bond and I’m so excited about the upcoming years when we can hang out together and do our own thing.  I will, because it’s my thing, bake cookies with him and let him sit on the counter and make a mess.  We will go out in the yard and find bugs and learn to be kind to them.  I will read him stories and give him ice cream.  We will have our own special relationship, one that is separate from anything else and I just couldn’t be happier!

 

Have Some Fun!

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have some fun!

Right now…this very minute…think of one thing that you want to do.

I mean WANT to do, not just should do or have to do.

Commit to doing whatever it is that comes to your mind by the end of this coming weekend.  No matter what else happens this week, make it happen!  Just this once.

 

 

 

I’m a Fixer; What Are You?

You know how, in a group of people, each person takes kind of an unofficial role?  Some of us are planners, some of us are followers, some of us are easy-going and some not so much.  Some in our group work really hard and struggle to get ahead and others seem to carry a horseshoe in their pocket.  It takes all kinds of people to make up our world and each one serves their purpose.  Well, I’m a fixer.  I have a compulsion to have to fix everything.  I know that idea is outdated.  All the FB posts, pins, and articles that I read nowadays say things like “sometimes you just need someone to listen” or “sometimes you just want somebody to say it’s ok”. Well, that’s not me.

I try, really hard, to just listen and to not offer input or advice unless I’m asked.  I fully realize that not everybody wants my opinion or wants me to try to fix something, but I can’t help it!  It appears that my brain believes that my life goal is to fix everything for everybody!  I do my best work when I have a mission, a goal, a cause to fight for.  It can be a huge, important one or something inconsequential and meaningless.  The point is that if I see something that, in my opinion, can or should be different, it energizes me.  It gives me something to focus on and something that makes me feel like I make a difference. Continue reading “I’m a Fixer; What Are You?”

A Choice: Your Phone or Your Life

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phone

I realize that times change and that each generation does things differently than the one before it.  I also understand that the world around us requires us to change the way we do things.   I do believe, however, that with all the technology created to make our lives easier, we’ve actually allowed ourselves to become even busier than we were before.  This is about how we choose to manage that.

Obviously things change over time, usually a lot of time so that we don’t even notice it happening.  The goal of these advancements is to allow us to get more done in less time.  I think, however, we’ve taken that free time and filled it up with even more things to do, usually online and usually via our phone.  Yes, we get more done, but I don’t think we’ve gained anything because we’re not using it for things we want to do; we just keep adding in more things we think we have to do.   I think we’re so addicted now to filling up our time that we simply don’t know any other way.  Any free minute we have, we reach for our phone or laptop.  We always have to be looking at something, checking something, or doing something (or more than one thing). Continue reading “A Choice: Your Phone or Your Life”

Television/Internet Options!!!

Okay, so I have accepted the fact that most of us are pretty much limited to just a couple of choices when it comes to getting a cable and internet company…sometimes just one.  I know there are options for just internet service, but it usually ends up making financial sense to bundle, right?  So you end up going with one of the few choices we have.  Plus, we’re used to it so it’s easier and we need our TV and internet to survive…at least I do.

I have a request for any ambitious entrepreneur out there looking to start a new business.  If you can come up with a cable/internet service that provides the following, I’m pretty sure that you would garner a huge customer base from the existing service providers.  Here are my requests: Continue reading “Television/Internet Options!!!”

It’s National Puppy Day!

Our furry friends provide unconditional love.  They are there for us when we’re happy, when we’re sad, and are faithful like no other.  Today is our day to honor our bff.  Maybe an extra treat today (’cause you know, it’s different than every other day we spoil them).

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National Puppy Day