This Summer

I feel like this is the summer that never happened. Once the ‘Rona hit, our choices became severely limited. I know that I, at least, thought it would last for a couple months, maybe three tops. It’s been more months than I care to count. It seems like it was just the 4th of July and all of a sudden, more than a month has passed. Here it is mid-August and we’re not much better off than we were. Now’s the time when I would typically review what I’ve done so far this summer versus what I wanted to do and make a plan to finish off my list.

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There’s Always Room for Disagreement

These days, there are so many things in our world that are being disputed. This isn’t a bad thing. Everything SHOULD be up for debate; it’s how we change our world. It’s long-standing practice to question our culture, our laws, and the state of our world. It’s how positive change is made. It’s not always easy and it’s not always pleasant or even peaceful. This practice of evaluation, discussion, disagreement, and action is as old as our country and it’s how we got where we are.

As citizens, it’s not only our right to question what’s happening around us, but it’s our duty as citizens to ensure that our voice is counted and that our democracy continues to grow and flourish. This means that voices should not be quieted, peaceful protests should always be allowed to happen, and every single citizen has a right to an opinion and to express it.

Our current climate of government is unlike any other in our lifetime. It seems as if every norm over the past decades has been turned upside down. The things that we’ve taken for granted such as democracy, fairness, and open communication have disappeared. We’re in a situation unlike anything in the history of our own government. Many flags have been raised; many experts in past and current administrations have grave concerns regarding the direction that our country is headed. Many individuals have strong opposing opinions and believe that the direction that we’re heading is long overdue and the right way to achieve success in our country.

Disregarding opinions on the many matters under discussion, the fundamental right to disagree is still valued in our country. In fact, it’s what we should do to ensure vigorous debate and a healthy outcome. Our voices should be heard and peaceful protests are a way to accomplish that. Other ways to express our opinions can include getting involved in campaigns, joining committees for causes that you believe in, and even just having conversations with others. Most of all, though, we can vote.

Your vote represents your beliefs, your ideals, and your position on all kinds of issues. November is coming up fast. Look at not just the presidential race, but all offices, including those in your own community. Do your homework and look at the issues and the candidates’ views on those issues. What are the things most important to you? What are their stated positions and what is their past voting history? Make your voice heard! Do your part to make this great country of ours become what you want it to be!

To Our Elected Officials

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Immigrants = Human Beings Looking for Help

My heart is weary and my eyes are tearing.

Watching these families being torn apart breaks my heart.

I can’t imagine, as a mother, how I could survive something like this. I would break.

I can’t imagine, as a child, how I would feel watching my mother walk away from me and not understanding why she’s leaving me with strangers and not coming back.

STOP with the lies, the blame, the accusations and deflection.

I don’t care about the politics. I don’t care if you’re a Republican or a Democrat. I don’t care if you’re pro-immigration or against immigration. I care about these families, these parents and these children.

We elected you to represent us, the people. You are supposed to care about what we want, what we need, and listen to us when we speak. When you don’t, when you choose to do whatever you want, you will be voted out. Expect it.

I don’t care what we have to do to fix this problem. FIX IT!

 

What Makes Our Mother So Special?

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First of all, it’s because she gave birth to us. She CHOSE to do that. She didn’t know what kind of kid you’d end up being. She didn’t know if you’d end up being a brain surgeon or end up in jail. It was all a crap shoot when she decided to have you, her baby. Just for this, you should thank her.

Secondly, she’s a hero for even HAVING you. Giving birth is not a picnic and you owe her big time for that. In fact, you can never even come close to repaying her for that, so at least make or get her a really nice Mother’s Day card.

It doesn’t matter how old you are; your mother is still likely an important influence in your life. No matter her current status, she still holds an important place in your life. Moms are there to be both loved and not-so-loved at different parts of your life and, because they’re your mom, they understand that.

I think we all like to believe that our mother is super-human. They can do anything! They know what’s best for us, they protect us from harm, they know what kind of cookies we like and they make them for us when we’re sad. When we’re sick, they know just what to do to help us feel better. When we succeed at something, they are the first person in line to celebrate our greatness! They help us figure out who we are, who we want to be, and how to get there. Moms are unconditional love.

At some point while we’re growing up, we’re going to learn differently. We’re going to recognize that our mom made a mistake or that we would do something differently than she had done. You might just be disappointed by that. It’s okay. It’s normal and part of our becoming our own person. It’s how we grow up and become independent with our own thoughts, values, and ways of doing things.

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Speaking as a daughter, I regret some of the things I said to my own mother. I regret the pain that I caused her when I was a teen and again later in life. I’m sure there were several times that we had differences of opinions but she NEVER stopped loving me or letting me know that she loved me. I, too, had differences of opinion where I didn’t necessarily agree with all of her choices, but I never stopped loving her either. That’s the thing; your mother is your mother. We need to remember that each one of us, both when we’re young and when we’re old, are simply doing the best that we can in the moment with what we have. If we stop to think about it, we can all understand that.

Speaking as a mother myself, I can tell you that it’s terrifying! The fact that you’re instantly responsible for an entire human life with absolutely no qualifications is crazy. Our kids think we’re perfect when they’re small and we sure don’t want to disappoint them, but we’re just normal people. I can certainly assure you that I am a flawed human being. I’ve made mistakes in my life and as a parent. I definitely have things that I wish I would have done differently; some big and some small. I feel each and every one of those. I have no more important thing in my life than my children and I would do anything to spare them hurt. The worst part of being a mother is the knowledge that sometimes you can’t fix it for them. Some things aren’t fixable and others shouldn’t be. Part of being a mother is stepping back and supporting them while they manage their own situations.

As we move through life in our role of the child or the mother, we change. Relationships will change over time with each child and we need to adapt. What doesn’t change? Our mom is still our mom. Treasure this relationship; there’s not another one like it.

Wishing you each a very Happy Mother’s Day!

To My Mom, for whom I would do anything in the world to be able to talk with again

To My Kids, who ARE my whole world

I Love You