It’s Sunday – Do THIS Today!

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We can look at Sunday two different ways. It’s either the end of the weekend and you’re already planning your upcoming week or you’re still enjoying your weekend and haven’t yet thought about the week ahead. Either way, think about doing THIS sometime today.

Real quick, think about something that makes you happy. Don’t think about whether or not you can do it; don’t think about the logistics of it. Just real quick…what makes you happy?

What are the first few things that you thought of?

Pick one of these and, sometime in the upcoming week, do something to support whatever it is. It can be as small as talking to a friend or as big as taking a vacation. It can be whatever makes you happy. Many times, it’s the act of just doing anything at all that makes us happy.  It’s the feeling we get when we’re planning a vacation; just the process is exciting.

If it’s a smaller, easier goal like meeting up with a friend, going for a walk, or reading that book you’ve wanted to get to, that’s great. It’s still important to take it seriously and make sure you get it done! Many times, we just assume that it will get done during the week so we don’t make a plan for it and we don’t make it a priority. I don’t know about you, but I always have things like this that just don’t get done and it rolls over from week to week on my list of “wanna’ do”.

Sometimes we’re not able to achieve our big goals, but we can do something similar to it, something that makes us happy. For instance, if your dream was to take an exotic vacation and you’re not able to do that because of time or money, can you think of something similar that would make you happy THIS week? Maybe read a book about your desired location, listen to some music that is central to your theme, or visit a local park and just enjoy the nature that’s available to you. Maybe you can put together a plan to reach your ultimate goal. The point is that you’re always able to accomplish something that is relative to your happiness. It doesn’t matter if it’s big or small; the point is that you’re doing something.

Life is too short to just get through it taking care of what you have to do. It should also be about what you want to do. What are some things you can do? If you enjoy nature, take a walk, go to a park, or take some pictures. If you enjoy cooking or baking, try out a new restaurant or make that recipe you’ve been wanting to try. If you enjoy exercise or fitness, make it a point to schedule a workout or yoga session, meditate, or do something similar that you enjoy. We have a tendency to put these things off, just assume they’ll get done, or think we just don’t have the time. Make the time, make an appointment with yourself. Pick a day and time between right now and next Sunday night. Write it down, put it in your phone, do whatever you need to do to make sure it happens. Make this time count. Your happiness is as important to your well-being as your to-do list is. Treat it like it’s important and schedule it in.

Make the time, make a plan, and be happy!

 

What IS Comfort Food, Anyway?

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comfort food

Who doesn’t love comfort food?  Comfort food is simply the food (or foods) that make you feel better when you think about them; it comforts you.  They are particularly handy to make when you’re stressed, sad, or anxious because it makes you feel better.  If you’re happy, they make you even happier!  It makes me nostalgic.

I said something about comfort food one day when my kids were younger and they didn’t believe there was such a thing.  They insisted that I made it up.  I had to prove that the phrase “comfort food” was a real thing and that other people knew about it too.  They’re convinced that we make things up to tell them; I’m not sure why.  It’s something to do with me telling them about the eyes in the back of my head when they were little. Continue reading “What IS Comfort Food, Anyway?”

New Year’s Revelations

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New Year’s Revelations

I’m going a different way this New Year’s.  I’m not making resolutions on the 1st to be done by the 7th.  I’m taking the first week or two after the New Year’s parties are over before I decide on anything.  We’re all so busy from Halloween through New Years with preparation, celebrations, food, and fun.  Who’s wasting good time thinking about what you want to do differently?  I just want to relax, have fun, and not think about much more than that.  That’s what the holidays are for.

What I’m doing now that things are about to calm down is taking the time to really think.  I’m thinking about this past year, maybe the last few years (okay, maybe the last 11 or 12 years).  I’m thinking about the things that have happened to me, the things that make me happy and the things that make me not-so-happy.  I’m going to think about my part in each of these; what could or should I have learned from each of these things that have happened?  Am I making the same mistake over and over?  Am I missing the bigger point by focusing on each and every detail?  What have I found that has made me happier?  What else can I do that would bring me even more happiness?   The answers to these are my revelations.

When I think I’m ready, I’m going to take each of those revelations and decide how I’m going to achieve each one.  That’s going to be my New Year’s resolution, but it’s going to be a well thought out goal rather than a usual or expected resolution that may not have much impact on my life.   Your own resolutions, based on your revelations, are going to last a whole lot longer because they mean a lot more to your life.   I’m sure we all want to be a healthy weight, be in at least the minimum state of fitness, quit smoking, etc.  These are all good resolutions, but not particularly personal or beneficial depending on where you’re at in your life.  Sometimes our souls and hearts know what’s better for us than our minds do.  Let yourself look back, think about your life, your happy and sad experiences.  Where do you want to go from here?  Who do you want to share your life with?  Who makes you feel good and who doesn’t?  What are the things that make you smile?  Which ones do the opposite?  Take the time, take ownership of your life, and make your resolutions based on what you deserve.  Make a plan to achieve a life full of happy!

I’m curious; do you make New Year’s resolutions?  How do YOU decide what your resolutions will be?  How do you hold yourself accountable to meet your goals?   I’d love to hear from you!

I wish you all the very best of health and happiness in 2017!

 

Holidays and Great Expectations

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Hmmm, do these two things ever go together?  I think they can, but I don’t think it’s necessarily the best way to go into a holiday.  We all do the best that we can through this holiday season but, when we set unrealistic expectations of either ourselves or others, it’s a setup for failure.  We all joke about that family get-together that includes the crazy uncle, the forgetful aunt, or the parents that are disappointed in us.  Unfortunately, this happens more often than less.  Most of us are versions of that family.  We may have disagreements and things can be awkward or irritating.  The picture-perfect family gathered around a fireplace and singing Christmas carols is extremely rare and, when we try to force this into our lives in an effort to make our holiday idyllic, we’re likely to be disappointed.   We don’t have to be, though!  Don’t try to be something that you’re not.  Do more of what makes you (and your family) happy and don’t worry about how it “should be”.

I don’t think we should try to meet expectations that aren’t realistic for ourselves.  We should each do what’s best for our OWN families and friends.  It’s what makes us happy, what brings us together, how we feel about each other that’s important.  It’s not the dinner, the gifts, the presentation or decorations.  It’s the joy that we are looking for.  Bearing in mind that none of us are perfect, it’s reasonable to assume that nobody else that shows up is perfect either.  Does that mean that your holiday gathering won’t be perfect?  Nope.  The perfection comes in the love, the heartfelt good wishes and acceptance that we have for each other.  Of course we’re all stressed out, tired from the running and trying to get everything done and, for a lot of us, work pressures, health, or weather problems on top of it.  We’re going to be a bit on edge, easily irritated and may not be in the best frame of mind in the exact moment we need to be.  Let’s try to be patient with each other.  There are things that matter (like caring, forgiveness, love) and things that don’t (irritation, intolerance, rudeness).  We have a choice on how we want to let these things affect us, not just on the holiday itself, but every other day as well.  Sometimes we need to overlook those things that aren’t perfect.  If the food is overcooked, you don’t approve of somebody’s clothing or the life choices a family member makes, it’s okay.  If everybody is there to share their day with each other, that’s what counts.  The rest will all make good stories in the years to come.  We should choose to look for the things that make us happy and not get upset about things that aren’t important.  THAT’S what it means to enjoy the holiday.  I hope yours is all that you wish for!