As a Grandparent, You Should Know…

So now that I’ve been a grandparent for a little while, there are a few things that I’ve learned and a lot more things that I need to learn.

First of all, I still think the most important thing that I can do as a grandparent is to just BE THERE.  I want my kids, when they are parents, to know that I’m always going to be here to support them, in whatever capacity they need.  I will babysit, I will provide words of advice (when asked for it and once in a while when I’m not asked), and I will provide a sympathetic ear.  However, I will also develop my own relationship with my grandbaby outside of that he has with his parents, family, friends, etc.

As a baby, there’s not too much that you can do other than hold and cuddle him, make sure that he’s safe, and love him.  I figured that’s easy enough; I can do that.  As the days (and nights) have gone by, I have been forced to realize just how much older I am than I was since I last had a baby.  Things have changed and there are things that I need to brush up on.  I mean, I knew things would be different, of course, but didn’t realize quite how much things have changed.  I asked about the big things, but figured I could certainly get by without too much new information.  I actually found myself being as nervous watching my grandson initially as I was as a mother and wished I had brushed up a little earlier just to be more comfortable.

On the issue of safety we, as grandparents, need to know how many things have changed, some significantly, since we were parents ourselves.  It’s up to us to make sure that we are aware of all the current safety standards and recommendations when it comes to our grandchildren.  That means that I have to read, take a class, and/or ask questions to ensure my grandson’s safety.  Do we know the right way to perform CPR now?  Do we know the correct practice of feeding/sleeping nowadays?  It’s up to us to make sure we do.  Of course the parents, themselves, should provide us with the information that is critical, but they also assume we know this stuff and I’m sure they don’t always feel comfortable telling us what to do.  The point is that it’s our own responsibility to make sure we’re keeping our grandchildren safe.  I bought a book on children’s development and look forward monthly to the growth that I can expect to see as well as issues that may come up.  I recently came across a website devoted to children’s issues hosted by the American Academy of Pediatrics (www.healthychildren.org) and am using this as a resource as well.  Not only is there a lot of information presented on children’s growth, safety, and family issues, but it also includes helpful apps, newsletters, symptom checker, and e-magazines.  You can check on your grandchild’s growth or address any concerns that you may have from newborn all the way through to them becoming a young adult.  I’m looking forward to using this resource and others to stay up-to-date on what to expect and to get news on anything that changes.

The being there and loving part of having a grandchild is the easiest part of all!  The best thing in the world is when my grandson’s face lights up when he sees me!  My heart just melts and everything else in the world just fades away.  When I sing to him and he stares into my eyes with a look of wonder on his face, all the worries in the world couldn’t pull my attention away.  I like to feel like we already have our very own special bond and I’m so excited about the upcoming years when we can hang out together and do our own thing.  I will, because it’s my thing, bake cookies with him and let him sit on the counter and make a mess.  We will go out in the yard and find bugs and learn to be kind to them.  I will read him stories and give him ice cream.  We will have our own special relationship, one that is separate from anything else and I just couldn’t be happier!

 

Tips for a Happy (and Safe) Halloween

happy halloween
happy halloween

As always, Halloween is one of the best times of the year if you’re a kid!  You can be anything you want for the day…a superhero, a villain, a star, or a witch.  You get to go out with other kids and collect candy from all your neighbors, check out all the other children’s’ costumes, and likely have a party at school.

There are always scary stories about things that can happen on Halloween.  Most of these stories have been around for decades.  There’s a big difference between a scary story and a scary reality, though.  We have to be diligent for our kids and for our neighbors’ kids, particularly in this day and age.  I think we’re all aware of the scary clowns that have been sighted in several areas.   Kids aren’t going to know the difference between a Halloween clown and a clown with more sinister motives.  Sometimes, neither are you.  It’s up to us to keep kids safe this Halloween.

Here are a couple of things to keep in mind:

  • Always go in groups and stay together.  Keep an eye on each other.
  • Young children should always be accompanied by an adult.  It’s a great opportunity to get to know the other children and their parents; bring along some apple cider and enjoy the afternoon!
  • Keep your costume safe.  Be sure that you’re able to see well and short enough that your costume doesn’t drag on the ground and trip you.  The costume material should be flame-resistant.
  • Dress for the weather.  It somehow always seems to be cold and rainy on Halloween.  Make sure you are dressed warmly (either under or over your costume) and carry a hat and/or gloves in your bag in case you want them.  If it’s darker out when you go, don’t forget to bring a flashlight with you!
  • Make sure there’s a light on and don’t go to houses without light.
  • Don’t ever go into somebody’s house!  Stay on the porch to get candy.
  • Don’t eat that candy until you have an adult check it.  There’s always a risk ­of somebody tampering with candy, so always let an adult check it out for you before you eat it!  ­­­­­­­­­
  • Be very careful crossing the street.  Look both ways and don’t try to rush in front of cars.  If you’re the one driving, please be extra cautious and drive very slowly and carefully.
  • Keep an eye on your surroundings.  Be aware of what’s going on around you.  Notice if there is somebody that doesn’t belong near you.  If you see anything suspicious, let somebody know.  You can either tell an adult at a house you are near, phone home, or phone the police (911) if you believe you are in danger.

Have a Fun and Safe Halloween!