Those Two Little Words

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The power contained in the two little words “I’m Sorry” is enormous!  It can heal years-old hurt, renew friendships, and restore relationships.  It can change people’s lives by allowing them to start forgiving and to get past the hurt and it makes you feel better as well.  Why, if it’s so valuable to say them, are these two little words so difficult for us to say?

Pride for one thing.  None of us likes to admit that we did or said anything wrong–ever.  Our first inclination, then, is to deny, deny, deny.  Some initial responses when you’ve done something that you regret can include:

  • That’s not what I meant
  • You misunderstood
  • That never happened
  • (S)he is lying
  • That’s not really what I said
  • It came out wrong
  • You don’t understand

Why do we feel the need to explain how what we did or said makes us innocent, even when we’re not?  There is not one single person on this earth that is perfect; NOT ONE.  Why do we try so hard to prove that we are?  What do we have to gain?  Time?  Almost all the time, things come out anyway and you end up addressing it, so why prolong it?  The longer you wait, the worse it gets.  It eats at the person that did something and it eats away at the person that was wronged.  You both know something was said or done even if you’re not quite sure of the details or disagree about the circumstances.  Sometimes neither person knows how to fix it.  Is it because of embarrassment?  Probably, but that stays with you, too, until it’s resolved.  Sometimes it gets to be so big that you lose the relationship rather than admit you were wrong.  Is it worth it?  Good relationships are a blessing and not replaceable. Continue reading “Those Two Little Words”